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Anthology: a grieving process

The Rain Reminded Me

25cm x 25cm

Vintage silk handkerchief, cotton embroidery thread

The second in my Anthology series, this small piece is my first step onto a path exploring the loss of my father in 2019. It's taken this long to process his passing (and to be honest, I'm still not quite there), but I have started to write small poems, reflecting on my own emotions over the last few years.

The idea for this piece came about after I found this vintage, silk handkerchief in a charity shop. It was so delicate, and I wondered about who might have used it in the past to dab away a tear.

Crying is strange - I'm generally classed as a 'crier' among family and friends (films, books, even TV adverts!). There is the polite 'tears in eyes', and the wild sobbing that can spring up from deep within. Sometimes it's a reflection of outside influences, sometimes a deeply personal erruption of emotions. All are valid, all have their place.

This poem I wrote after a particularly wet dog walk a few months ago. The darkening sky threatened to burst until, half a mile from home, the skies opened. My coat hood had caught on my glasses and created a funnel for the torrential rain to flow down my cheeks... and my body seemed to react almost immediately to the strong sense of grief which bubbled up. I surrendered to it (it's easy to cry in the rain) and by the time I was home, this cathartic process had eased my emotions.

Sky the colour of sealskin

I couldn't remember how

to grieve until the rain,

flowing down my face,

reminded me.

©Samantha Boot 2024

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What a beautiful post Sam. Your observations about the catharsis of crying, the welcoming of the tears and acknowledgement of their function and your hauntingly beautiful poem are all very moving. I have a feeling that this anthology series is going to be wonderful, resonating in so many ways with folks who are processing grief and powerful emotions...

Claire xx

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Thank you so much Claire, that this might resonate with others is a special thing. 🙏🏻


Debra Kay
Debra Kay
Jun 07

Sam, I lost my brother in 2019. And yes I am still overwhelmed with grief at times, albeit fewer times now. It helps to remember the good times with love and compassion for yourself.

Beautifully done work.

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Thank you Debra, and for sharing your own experiences. 🙏🏻

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